Say No to Princesses?

no-princessIs there anyone else out there who would agree with me that Cinderella, and all these other princess cartoons, should have a PG-13 rating?  That these cartoons really aren’t appropriate for younger kids? They’re all about looking pretty, and finding your prince charming – really not the kid of lessons I want to be teaching my kid.

We went to a princess birthday party this weekend. There was lots of the expected – pink, purple, sparkles, swirly dresses, tiaras. All the pretty little girls had a ball. Since then, my girl’s been in a princess mood, more so than before, if that’s even possible. So yesterday she raids her closet, and grabs all the new dresses I had stocked up for the summer. She decides she wants to try on every one of them, along with her hats, and fake jewels. Then she wants us to take photos to send to family members while she poses like a miniature princess model. No, she’s not about to enter her teenage years… She’s two.

Princesses, to little girls all over, mean pretty dresses, jewels, tiaras, castles, magic, and handsome princes. Lost are the real morals of these stories on their little minds. Appearances are emphasized – Belle’s the star of the story while the Beast is often forgotten. No kid will pay attention to a frog, even if he has a princely heart. Cinderella isn’t teaching girls not to be mean – it’s all about magic, glitzy gowns and dancing with Prince Charming.

And as adorable as our little girls may look parading around in their tutus and tiaras, later on these habits could spell trouble for daddy’s wallet.

Now I don’t want every girl out there to detest me for bashing their beloved fairy tales. I too grew up on these and enjoy the royal treatment once in a while – but once in a while is the key. The commercialization that’s taken over these characters, with an overdose of princess paraphernalia, cannot be healthy for the younger kids. As we all know, too much of anything is not good. Since this stuff is everywhere, toys, clothes, movies, tv, books, you name it, it’s difficult for parents to keep their kids away even if they want to.

It seems that Disney has received some criticism on this topic, and is trying to remedy this using their latest princess, Sophia the first. What has your experience been with Sophia – is she really teaching some valuable lessons, or is it just more glitz and glamour now aimed directly at toddlers?

I’ve been wanting to host a princess party for my little one’s 3rd birthday. But now I’m thinking I’ll hold off for a bit… maybe till she’s 13. Of course by then princesses may be a thing of the past. She may have moved on to boy bands and the like – the next Justin Bieber… YIKES!


Radio Flyer

I always wanted a Radio Flyer as a kid. The classic American toy that gives flight to so many kids’ dreams. Just seeing the bright red toys with white text splashed across it reminds you of happy, childhood days.

So yesterday I decided to take my baby girl to my favorite toy store to pick up her first Radio Flyer. We had a fun time scouring the colorful toy racks, searching for the familiar red wagons. I was surprised at how excited this tow year old was at the idea of buying this toy, assuming she hardly knew what a Radio Flyer was.

After a lot of browsing and trying, we finally settled on a ‘scooter. I grabbed the bright red, bulky package, when immediately a demanding voice squeaked, “Not the red one!”

What?! Not the red one? Red is what defines a Radio Flyer. Whoever even thought of coming up with Radio Flyers in different colors? Every image I had of these wonderful playthings was in red. Red is the Radio Flyer brand! So I tried explaining to her how cool a Red scooter would be, how envious every kid in the neighborhood would be, how pretty I thought the red scooter looked. Didn’t work. I tried a different approach – it’s red or nothing. A tantrum ensued.

We returned home with a pink, sparkly scooter.

So much for the Red branding! I guess the company has been more farsighted than me, catering to meet the needs of their ever-changing market including the new generation of pink-loving, bossy, princesses.

A Connection Economy

When I was a kid I wanted to get to know every person in the world, no kidding. Not that I wanted to be a celebrity. Just wanted to connect; to get to know the whole world on a personal level. I was fascinated by the enormous diversity of the human race and longed to solve the numerous mysteries that every personality entailed for me.

A recent article of an  interview with Seth Godin reminded me of this past whim of mine. He claims that we have left the industrial era and are entering a connection economy. “We are in an era of handmade insights, of human beings who touch other human beings in some way, making change happen.”

What a wonderful phenomenon human communication is! One word, one simple sentence can bring about so many different reactions in different people, so many different consequences – all because of the different emotions we experience. Are we finally realizing the importance of human emotion in business communication? Are we slowly realizing that animal spirits make a difference in our economy? Will we ever even come close to solving the mysteries of communication? How amazingly helpful that would be in every aspect of life, not just business and personal? Are there some people who are just better at solving these mysteries than others? Is it an art that can be taught?

Or are we losing this art in this fast-paced generation of social media and electronic communication where a deep, meaningful conversation is a rare delicacy like classic literature is a waste of time? And it takes a genius like Seth to remind us the importance of this human connection?

For now, I’m off to try and solve one such mystery – my two year old. If only I can figure out how to communicate to her that I’m in charge and she needs to listen to mommy …

Fun, Free, cold weather places for toddler and me

My little one had a blast this summer. At one, she’s already showing her outdoorsy personality, grabbing the car keys whenever she finds them and pointing to the front door. It was easy keeping her busy in the summer with daily trips to Grandma’s and their playhouse, evening strolls in the neighborhood and weekend visits to parks, beaches, pools etc. But now I have the task of providing healthy entertainment during the winter months. And I hate cold weather. If I had it my way I’d hibernate the winter away. So to keep me from finding excuses to get lazy this winter and succumb to the ever-present temptations of tv and wii, I put together a list of easily accessible, fun, and best of all FREE places you can enjoy with your toddler in this weather:

1. Pet store: a great and free alternative to the zoo, farm, or aquarium, a visit to the pet store will provide all the excitement and learning for your little one.

2. Book store: When we take my daughter to the local Barnes & Noble she doesn’t want to leave! Her favorite is the little  train set that she plays with in the kids section, while I read a fun story to her.

3. Library: Story time at your local library is a great way to introduce her to other kids and nurture the love for books.

4. Play area at the mall: I took her here when she was around 9 months old and she was amazed to see so many other people her size. It’s still a great place to take her when she gets tired watching Mommy shop. Mommy gets her rest, and baby builds her social skills!

5. Grocery store: Hard to believe, but it’s quite easy to turn a trip to the grocery store into a fun, learning experience. My baby loves riding in the shopping cart, picking up her favorite cereal box, and saying hi to all the people in the checkout line. You can also get a little toy shopping cart for baby so she can take charge of her own shopping!

6. Farmer’s market: What a great place to help your toddler learn to identify different fruits and vegetables listed in her Alphabet books! We took our daughter last weekend and she had a great time. An added plus for us was all the compliments she received from others there. One of the nice shop owners even handed her a free bag of Asian jelly candy.

7. Crafts: There are several stores that hold free DIY classes for kids. Some interesting ones you can check out: Michaels, Home Depot, Lowes.

8. Museums: With a little bit of research you can score some free visits to museums and other local attractions. Some state and university-affiliated museums do not charge an entrance fee or have one day of free entry e.g. Philly Art Museum allows free entry on Sundays. Also, check out other programs like (my favorite) Bank of America’s ‘Museums on Us’ program where card holders gain free entry to selected museums on the first full weekend of every month! Please Touch Museum, here we come!

9. Local events: Flip through local magazines that may show up in your mail or from your pediatrician’s office – they often have lists of free/low-cost children’s activities in the area.

10. Religious center: If you want to expose your kids to yours or other religious activities, take them to your mosque, church, or synagogue. It’s a great way to start religious dialogue. These centers also often organize group activities and can be a great place to make new friends for both baby and you.

11. Kiddie gyms: Gym classes are becoming quite popular even for little kids these days. However, these can be quite expensive. But even if you don’t want to fork out the money for regular classes, most gyms offer an introductory class. Look up the gyms in your area and take advantage of the free classes. You don’t have to sign up for more if you don’t see the worth.

12. Volunteer: Teach your child values of compassion and generosity  and enjoy some quality time together by looking up volunteer opportunities that you can participate in as a family: check out local medical centers, soup kitchens, or senior centers.

13. Family and friends: Sometimes a change of scene can do wonders to a child’s mood. Use this to your advantage to revamp your social life and take her to visit Grandma’s, uncles, aunts, cousins, friends, coworkers. If necessary, just keep the visits short to maintain both yours and their sanity 🙂

We’ve pretty much tried all these ideas and they’ve worked well for us. The list is still work in progress as we try to explore a new place with baby each weekend. Would love to hear what kind of places you enjoy as a family!

So why Lemon Tart?

There are a few things I miss about life in Pakistan.

  • Shikanjabeen – The Pakistani form of lemonade. Fresh-squeezed lemon juice, with sugar, ice, a touch of salt… ahhhhhhhh! The ultimate refreshment in 100 degree summer afternoons. Try as I might, I haven’t been able to get the same taste myself here. Call me crazy, but it feels like lemons here just don’t taste the same. Most fruit doesn’t. I’ve been hearing buzz words like ‘genetically modified’, ‘not organic’ etc. that might have something to do with this. Regardless, I haven’t had real shikanjabeen in a while.
  • Lemon tarts – I can get plenty of lemon tarts here; have even tried quite a few. But it’s the desi* version that I crave – a little pastry tartlet with swirly yellow cream, more sweet than tart, topped with a dot of red jelly. Mmm mmm good! I’d eat around the jelly first so that my last bite would contain the jelly – has anyone else ever tried that?
  • Clothes – the best thing about desi clothes is that you get to design your own! It’s like getting ice cream for Cold Stone or Marble Slab. You get to pick your fabric, then choose from an endless assortment of lace, sequins, broches, buttons, embroidery… Finally you get the clothes tailor-made so they’re just perfect for you. And thus the chances of running into someone else wearing the same clothes are pretty slim. Here, on the other hand, department and chain stores dominate the clothing market.

My nostalgia for desi clothes set in when I started dressing my little pumpkin in Carter’s and Gymboree clothing. Without fail I’d run into another kid at the mall or at a birthday party wearing stuff my baby had. And for some reason it didn’t seem special anymore. I wanted only the most special things for my little one 🙂 How I’d love to shop for my baby’s clothes, Paki style! And I woke up one morning with the idea that I want to share these special things with others. Lemonades and Lemon Tarts,

Chubby babies with pretty clothes,

Days filled with shopping,

 These are a few of my favorite things…


What are some of your favorite things? If you’re looking for ideas to start your own business, it’s a good exercise to make this list.


* Desi [d̪eːsi] or Deshi [d̪e(ː)ʃi] refers to the people, cultures, and products of the Indian subcontinent and, increasingly, to the people, cultures, and products of their diaspora. Desi countries include India, Bangladesh, Pakistan There are large desi populations in (e.g.) the UK, US, Canada, and other western countries as well. (

The beginning

My husband and I used to argue about my work plans before our baby was born. He insisted that I stay home with the baby. I wanted to go back to work.  He believed if I quit work I’d have the time for the best possible upbringing for our little girl. I could not  come to terms with the idea of throwing away my, thus far, successful career, professional network,  and Ivy League education to be a SAHM.

Months after the baby was born we were still arguing about my work plans. My husband insisted I go back to work. I wanted to stay home with the baby. He’s realizing that a baby means increased expenses; and we’re lucky to have my parents close by so baby’s care is still within the family. I cannot come to terms with the idea of staying away from my baby for 8+ hours, 5 days a week (or even less for that matter) – what with missing out on the nursing bond, and all of her ‘firsts.’ Goes to show the unexpected surprises expecting can bring.

So we set about to find a creative solution that would not leave any of us miserable. Ta da… Lemon Tart! ( I love dressing up my baby (like I used to love dressing up dolls as a kid), and taking pictures of her in every outfit. Having a baby is every girl’s dream come true: you get to design an entire wardrobe… and then start all over again as she grows out of each one!

Starting my own business has always been a dream (wow, baby sure is making a lot of dreams come true – stay tuned for future blog posts about another one!). The idea of Lemon Tart has started me on a very exciting journey. I am finally able to put my creativity to work. And as I relish every day that I get to spend with my little princess, I want to help other moms enjoy the same. That’s where this blog comes in.

With this blog I want to:

– share my exciting journey with you

– share all I’m learning about starting s business in the hope that I may inspire one other mom to explore her options

– promote the goals for Lemon Tart Babies (details to follow)

– leave behind a ‘legacy’ so one one day my daughter can read my posts and witness the inspiration she’s been for me

So do you want to join me on my journey?

Disclaimer: I’m not such a risk-taker that I quit my job for my new venture. Thankfully my boss has been understanding of my changing priorities and has offered me a largely work-from-home position 🙂